Several other couples that represent many other ethnicities were also invited to participate but declined to do so. Carroll ’17, a Kirkland resident who is white, and Stephen S.
Yen ’17, a Pforzheimer resident who is Asian, being part of a romance that stretches from the river to the Quad can be more problematic than being part of an interracial couple.
One couple met through a mutual friend at the end of freshman year. One couple met through a mutual friend at the end of freshman year. Though these three couples are alike in that they include students of different races, they paint vastly different portraits of interracial dating at Harvard.
So began the relationships of three couples at Harvard, all of which are interracial. So began the relationships of three couples at Harvard, all of which are interracial.
“Coming to UGA has exposed me to a lot more queer people or people who would be okay dating queer people.”Ashley Waterfill, a sophomore who identifies as a lesbian, agrees that there are challenges in the recognition of other LGBTQ singles.“I think it’s probably just because it’s an insult to assume someone’s gay,” she said, before correcting herself.
“It’s not an insult to me, but some people might feel that way.”When asked about the differences between LGBTQ dating and straight dating, Waterfill laughed.“For me, it’d be so easy to find a guy,” Waterfill said. I would assume it’s a lot easier if you’re straight.”Instead of approaching strangers or going online, Waterfill typically goes on dates set up by her other LGBTQ friends, since she says, “it’s easier that way.”Even when a LGBTQ person meets another single and gets past the phase described by Eydam as “is she gay, is he gay, is it going to happen?
Mars Hallman, a freshman who identifies as pansexual, has had “really negative experience” with some of the pitfalls of LGBTQ relationships, like jealousy when one of the partners is attracted to multiple genders and the other isn’t.“I’ve been in a long-term relationship with people who were always afraid I would leave them for someone else of a different gender identity,” said Hallman. Even when I was completely devoted to one person they would always check over their shoulder, thinking I’m flirting with someone else.”As a transgender man, Hallman is also wary at times of cisgender partners who might not entirely respect his identity.“This goes out to my trans baby gays: my advice to you is if they’re transphobic, run." Hallman said.
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, “cuffing season,” or the chillier months of the year where singles become more dispositioned to enter relationships, is in full swing.
Members of the Athens LGBTQ community say finding a date can be hard no matter what time of the year it is.“You can’t just walk up to a person and be like ‘hey, are you queer’ because that can be taken really wrong,” said Lauren Eydam, a Junior who identifies as bisexual.
While the two Asian and white couples interviewed for this article say that they have not confronted any discrimination due to their mixed-race relationship, the white and black couple interviewed said they have encountered a substantial amount of prejudice on campus.
Like any discussion of race, the topic of interracial relationships can be incendiary and can produce heated opinions.